{"id":178,"date":"2020-04-02T00:01:00","date_gmt":"2020-04-02T04:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/?p=178"},"modified":"2026-02-21T19:17:51","modified_gmt":"2026-02-22T00:17:51","slug":"simons-self-talk-superpower","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/simons-self-talk-superpower\/","title":{"rendered":"Simon\u2019s Self-Talk Superpower"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hardship needs no introduction. It\u2019s all around us and mentioned daily on every news outlet and social media platform.<\/em><\/h3>\n

This series of articles is not about hardship. It\u2019s about you.<\/h3>\n

Our newsletter, Weathering the Storm, is a source of curated tips and strategies to help you weather the COVID-19 storm.<\/p>\n

This newsletter is inspired by actual clients* and written by experienced psychologists.<\/p>\n

*All client names are fictional and presenting issues are composites of client experiences.<\/p>\n

Meet Simon*<\/strong><\/p>\n

Since losing his grandmother, Simon\u2019s made it a point to reach out to loved ones more than usual:\u00a0 He calls his parents daily, chats with friends and Facetimes with his nieces and nephews.<\/p>\n

Despite them being in good health, Simon \u2013 much like his friend Sarah<\/a>\u00a0 \u2013 is overly anxious and can\u2019t stop thinking about worst-case scenarios like \u201cWhat if my loved one(s) gets sick and I lose them ?\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

If you, like Simon, feel this way, rest assured that many methods exist to positively alter how we think about things, to ultimately help dial down the unhelpful emotions.<\/p>\n

Today, we\u2019ll look at \u201cThe Double Standard Approach\u201d.<\/p>\n

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The Double Standard Approach is based on the idea that our emotions are shaped by our inner dialogue. Inner dialogue, or self-talk, is another word for \u201cour thoughts\u201d \u2014 the constant commentary we keep about different situations.<\/p>\n

When our self-talk is made up of distressing thoughts, it amplifies our negative emotions related to a specific situation.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s take Simon for example. In light of the recent loss of his grandmother, he keeps asking himself\u00a0 \u201cWhat if a loved one of mine gets ill ?\u2019\u2019. This self-talk amplifies his feelings of worry and stress.<\/p>\n

Now what if one of Simon\u2019s friends came to him with the same distressing thought. For example, if a friend told Simon she was worried about her parents having a heart attack, how would he respond?<\/p>\n

Much like you and I, Simon would quickly offer a compassionate and realistic reply to reassure his friend or loved one. Maybe something like: \u201cYour parents don\u2019t have heart problems, and even if they did, they have access to health care and the odds are they will be okay\u201d.<\/p>\n

Enter the double-standard approach<\/strong><\/em>: \u00a0you would never talk to a dear friend in the distressing way you sometimes talk to yourself!<\/p>\n

What if next time Simon caught himself thinking about worst-case scenarios he stopped\u2026 Paused \u2026. And thought to himself \u201cWhat would I tell a friend -or anyone I love \u2013 if they were facing this exact same situation ?\u201d.<\/p>\n

Simply put, we must show ourselves the same empathy, compassion and positivity we offer others and suddenly, self-talk transforms from harmful to helpful \u2014 a true superpower!<\/p>\n

For more tips,\u00a0visit our blog here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

We welcome you to leave comments as well as questions in the discussion section so we can try to answer some of them in upcoming posts.<\/p>\n

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