{"id":163,"date":"2017-02-03T23:17:00","date_gmt":"2017-02-04T04:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/?p=163"},"modified":"2025-01-27T05:08:06","modified_gmt":"2025-01-27T10:08:06","slug":"3-most-common-student-stressors-and-how-to-overcome-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/3-most-common-student-stressors-and-how-to-overcome-them\/","title":{"rendered":"3 most common student stressors and how to overcome them"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><em>Student life<\/em>\u00a0isn\u2019t always smooth sailing and stressful situations may arise. Stress is created when we perceive that we are unable to juggle the different stressors being.thrown our way.<\/h3>\n<p>With this in mind, we created a list of the 3 most common stressors facing students using feedback received from students themselves. For each stressor, we\u2019ve included a tip to help overcome it. These tips will also help reduce stress in other spheres of your life.<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Lack of time<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Juggling school, work, and a social life is quite a feat. The feeling of sinking in quick sand is one we would all prefer to avoid.<\/p>\n<h3><em>Our tip: Use a tool like \u201c<a style=\"outline: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/tomato-timer.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">Pomodoro<\/a>\u201d to manage your time and ultimately reduce stress.<\/em><\/h3>\n<p>Here is how it works:<\/p>\n<p>Pick a task.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set a timer for 25 minutes<\/li>\n<li>Work on said task until time is up<\/li>\n<li>Take a 5-minute break<\/li>\n<li>Repeat this process four times<\/li>\n<li>After the fourth time, take a 30-minute break<\/li>\n<li>Start the whole process over again<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The use of time management tools will help you maximize productivity allowing you to check more items off your to-do list, leaving you feeling more relaxed.<\/p>\n<p>__CONFIG_colors_palette__{&#8220;active_palette&#8221;:0,&#8221;config&#8221;:{&#8220;colors&#8221;:{&#8220;36c04&#8221;:{&#8220;name&#8221;:&#8221;Main Accent&#8221;,&#8221;parent&#8221;:-1},&#8221;3a8fd&#8221;:{&#8220;name&#8221;:&#8221;Accent Light&#8221;,&#8221;parent&#8221;:&#8221;36c04&#8243;,&#8221;lock&#8221;:{&#8220;saturation&#8221;:1,&#8221;lightness&#8221;:1}}},&#8221;gradients&#8221;:[]},&#8221;palettes&#8221;:[{&#8220;name&#8221;:&#8221;Default&#8221;,&#8221;value&#8221;:{&#8220;colors&#8221;:{&#8220;36c04&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;var(&#8211;tcb-skin-color-0)&#8221;},&#8221;3a8fd&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;rgb(240, 240, 240)&#8221;,&#8221;hsl_parent_dependency&#8221;:{&#8220;h&#8221;:144,&#8221;l&#8221;:0.94,&#8221;s&#8221;:0}}},&#8221;gradients&#8221;:[]},&#8221;original&#8221;:{&#8220;colors&#8221;:{&#8220;36c04&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;rgb(255, 204, 102)&#8221;,&#8221;hsl&#8221;:{&#8220;h&#8221;:40,&#8221;s&#8221;:1,&#8221;l&#8221;:0.7}},&#8221;3a8fd&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;rgb(241, 241, 241)&#8221;,&#8221;hsl_parent_dependency&#8221;:{&#8220;h&#8221;:0,&#8221;s&#8221;:0,&#8221;l&#8221;:0.94}}},&#8221;gradients&#8221;:[]}}]}__CONFIG_colors_palette__<\/p>\n<h3>Depression self-test<\/h3>\n<p>Feeling down ? Take our 9 item questionnaire to help assess your depression severity.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"\/self-test\/depression\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Start Here<\/a><\/p>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li><strong>Insecurities &amp; doubts<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Too often we define our own worth by comparing our failures to the successes of others. This flawed logic lies at the root of our doubts and insecurities.<\/p>\n<h3><em>Our tip<\/em>:<em>\u00a0Talk nicely to yourself! Our own inner dialogue affects how we feel about our self. Be mindful and recognize negative self-talk (e.g. \u201cI am not good enough.\u2019\u2019). Replacing these kinds of thoughts with positive ones (e.g.\u201cI can do this!\u201d, or \u201cTake it one semester at a time.\u201d) will help you overcome insecurities and doubts.<\/em><\/h3>\n<p>Being aware of self-talk patterns will help you gain perspective on how much control you have over your own mood and how this affects your stress levels.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li><strong>Relationships<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Nurturing and juggling relationships requires time and effort. Rifts with people we hold near and dear can be a major source of stress.<\/p>\n<h3><em>Our tip: During conflict, rather than focusing on what others did or said, talk about you and how you feel using I-statements.<\/em><\/h3>\n<p>An effective I-statement must contain 3 essential components:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Brief explanation of the behaviour that bothered you<\/li>\n<li>Feeling(s) this behaviour caused<\/li>\n<li>The effect of the behaviour on you<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em>For example,\u00a0Instead of saying \u201cYou\u2019re never on time!\u2019\u2019, say \u201cI am frustrated (feeling) when you are late (behavior) because I feel like my time is not valued (effect)\u2019\u2019.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>We often mistake others for mind readers who can interpret our feelings. Frustration arises when we feel we are misunderstood by others. This can cause a strain on a relationship. Avoid creating this type of stress by using I-statements. They promote open communication and reduce tension.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Lastly<\/em><\/strong>, remember that stress lies in the eye of the beholder. A simple change in our perception of stress can change how we feel.<\/p>\n<p>__CONFIG_colors_palette__{&#8220;active_palette&#8221;:0,&#8221;config&#8221;:{&#8220;colors&#8221;:{&#8220;36c04&#8221;:{&#8220;name&#8221;:&#8221;Main Accent&#8221;,&#8221;parent&#8221;:-1},&#8221;3a8fd&#8221;:{&#8220;name&#8221;:&#8221;Accent Light&#8221;,&#8221;parent&#8221;:&#8221;36c04&#8243;,&#8221;lock&#8221;:{&#8220;saturation&#8221;:1,&#8221;lightness&#8221;:1}}},&#8221;gradients&#8221;:[]},&#8221;palettes&#8221;:[{&#8220;name&#8221;:&#8221;Default&#8221;,&#8221;value&#8221;:{&#8220;colors&#8221;:{&#8220;36c04&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;var(&#8211;tcb-skin-color-0)&#8221;},&#8221;3a8fd&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;rgb(240, 240, 240)&#8221;,&#8221;hsl_parent_dependency&#8221;:{&#8220;h&#8221;:144,&#8221;l&#8221;:0.94,&#8221;s&#8221;:0}}},&#8221;gradients&#8221;:[]},&#8221;original&#8221;:{&#8220;colors&#8221;:{&#8220;36c04&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;rgb(255, 204, 102)&#8221;,&#8221;hsl&#8221;:{&#8220;h&#8221;:40,&#8221;s&#8221;:1,&#8221;l&#8221;:0.7}},&#8221;3a8fd&#8221;:{&#8220;val&#8221;:&#8221;rgb(241, 241, 241)&#8221;,&#8221;hsl_parent_dependency&#8221;:{&#8220;h&#8221;:0,&#8221;s&#8221;:0,&#8221;l&#8221;:0.94}}},&#8221;gradients&#8221;:[]}}]}__CONFIG_colors_palette__<\/p>\n<h3>Anxiety self-test<\/h3>\n<p>Feeling anxious? Take our 7-item questionnaire to help assess your anxiety severity.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"\/self-test\/anxiety\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> Start Here <\/a><\/p>\n<p><em>Need a little extra guidance? A member of our Psychology Network can provide you with additional tips and tricks to help navigate the different stressors life throws your way.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Contact us at\u00a0<strong>1-844-337-2473\u00a0ext.0<\/strong>\u00a0for more information or to book an appointment. Our coordinator will be happy to refer you to the best psychologist for your needs. You can also use the confidential contact form below.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Want to know more about our student services?\u00a0<\/em><em>Check out the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/therapy\/student-wellness\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">student wellness section<\/a>\u00a0of our website for more details.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Student life\u00a0isn\u2019t always smooth sailing and stressful situations may arise. Stress is created when we perceive that we are unable to juggle the different stressors being.thrown our way. With this in mind, we created a list of the 3 most common stressors facing students using feedback received from students themselves. For each stressor, we\u2019ve included [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":164,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wds_primary_category":0,"footnotes":"","tve_updated_post":"<div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<h3 class=\"\"><em>Student life<\/em>&nbsp;isn\u2019t always smooth sailing and stressful situations may arise. Stress is created when we perceive that we are unable to juggle the different stressors being.thrown our way.<\/h3><p>With this in mind, we created a list of the 3 most common stressors facing students using feedback received from students themselves. For each stressor, we\u2019ve included a tip to help overcome it. These tips will also help reduce stress in other spheres of your life.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<ol class=\"\"><li style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5dda50\"><strong>Lack of time<br><\/strong><\/li><\/ol><p>Juggling school, work, and a social life is quite a feat. The feeling of sinking in quick sand is one we would all prefer to avoid.<\/p><h3 class=\"\"><em>Our tip: Use a tool like \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/tomato-timer.com\/\" class=\"tve-froala fr-basic\" style=\"outline: none;\" rel=\"nofollow\" target=\"_blank\">Pomodoro<\/a>\u201d to manage your time and ultimately reduce stress.<\/em><\/h3><p>Here is how it works:<\/p><p>Pick a task.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv-styled_list\" data-icon-code=\"icon-check\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5ee489\"><ul class=\"tcb-styled-list\"><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f2361\" style=\"\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f1c14\">Set a timer for 25 minutes<\/span><\/li><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f2361\" style=\"\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f1c14\">Work on said task until time is up<\/span><\/li><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f2361\" style=\"\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f1c14\">Take a 5-minute break<br><\/span><\/li><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f2361\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5fc5f9\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f1c14\">Repeat this process four times<br><\/span><\/li><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f2361\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style \" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5ffafa\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f1c14\">After the fourth time, take a 30-minute break<br><\/span><\/li><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f2361\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style \" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a602c5a\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f1c14\">Start the whole process over again<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<p>The use of time management tools will help you maximize productivity allowing you to check more items off your to-do list, leaving you feeling more relaxed.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_symbol thrive-shortcode thrv_symbol_169\" data-shortcode=\"thrive_symbol\" data-id=\"169\" data-selector=\".thrv_symbol_169\"><div class=\"thrive-shortcode-config\" style=\"display: none !important\">__CONFIG_post_symbol__{\"id\":\"169\"}__CONFIG_post_symbol__<\/div><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<ol start=\"2\" class=\"\"><li style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a610943\"><strong>Insecurities &amp; doubts<br><\/strong><\/li><\/ol><p>Too often we define our own worth by comparing our failures to the successes of others. This flawed logic lies at the root of our doubts and insecurities.<\/p><h3 class=\"\"><em>Our tip<\/em>:<em>&nbsp;Talk nicely to yourself! Our own inner dialogue affects how we feel about our self. Be mindful and recognize negative self-talk (e.g. \u201cI am not good enough.\u2019\u2019). Replacing these kinds of thoughts with positive ones (e.g.\u201cI can do this!\u201d, or \u201cTake it one semester at a time.\u201d) will help you overcome insecurities and doubts.<\/em><\/h3><p>Being aware of self-talk patterns will help you gain perspective on how much control you have over your own mood and how this affects your stress levels.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<ol start=\"3\" class=\"\"><li style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a619123\"><strong>Relationships<br><\/strong><\/li><\/ol><p>Nurturing and juggling relationships requires time and effort. Rifts with people we hold near and dear can be a major source of stress.<\/p><h3 class=\"\"><em>Our tip: During conflict, rather than focusing on what others did or said, talk about you and how you feel using I-statements.<\/em><\/h3><p>An effective I-statement must contain 3 essential components:<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv-styled_list\" data-icon-code=\"icon-check\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb3e\"><ul class=\"tcb-styled-list\"><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb46\" style=\"\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb47\">Brief explanation of the behaviour that bothered you<\/span><\/li><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb48\" style=\"\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb4a\">Feeling(s) this behaviour caused<\/span><\/li><li class=\"thrv-styled-list-item\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb4b\" style=\"\"><div class=\"tcb-styled-list-icon\"><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_icon tve_no_drag tcb-no-delete tcb-no-clone tcb-no-save tcb-icon-inherit-style\"><svg class=\"tcb-icon\" viewBox=\"0 0 32 32\" data-id=\"icon-check\" data-name=\"\"><path d=\"M29.333 10.267c0 0.4-0.133 0.8-0.533 1.2l-14.8 14.8c-0.267 0.267-0.667 0.4-1.067 0.4s-0.933-0.133-1.2-0.533l-2.4-2.267-6.267-6.267c-0.267-0.267-0.4-0.667-0.4-1.2s0.133-0.8 0.533-1.2l2.4-2.4c0.267-0.133 0.667-0.4 1.067-0.4s0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l5.067 5.067 11.2-11.333c0.267-0.267 0.667-0.533 1.2-0.533 0.4 0 0.8 0.133 1.2 0.533l2.4 2.4c0.267 0.267 0.4 0.667 0.4 1.2z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div><\/div><span class=\"thrv-advanced-inline-text tve_editable tcb-styled-list-icon-text tcb-no-delete tcb-no-save\" data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb4c\">The effect of the behaviour on you<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<p><em>For example,&nbsp;Instead of saying \u201cYou\u2019re never on time!\u2019\u2019, say \u201cI am frustrated (feeling) when you are late (behavior) because I feel like my time is not valued (effect)\u2019\u2019.<\/em><\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<p>We often mistake others for mind readers who can interpret our feelings. Frustration arises when we feel we are misunderstood by others. This can cause a strain on a relationship. Avoid creating this type of stress by using I-statements. They promote open communication and reduce tension.<\/p><p><strong><em>Lastly<\/em><\/strong>, remember that stress lies in the eye of the beholder. A simple change in our perception of stress can change how we feel.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_symbol thrive-shortcode thrv_symbol_171\" data-shortcode=\"thrive_symbol\" data-id=\"171\" data-selector=\".thrv_symbol_171\"><div class=\"thrive-shortcode-config\" style=\"display: none !important\">__CONFIG_post_symbol__{\"id\":\"171\"}__CONFIG_post_symbol__<\/div><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<p><em>Need a little extra guidance? A member of our Psychology Network can provide you with additional tips and tricks to help navigate the different stressors life throws your way.<\/em><\/p><p><em>Contact us at&nbsp;<strong>1-844-337-2473&nbsp;ext.0<\/strong>&nbsp;for more information or to book an appointment. Our coordinator will be happy to refer you to the best psychologist for your needs. You can also use the confidential contact form below.<\/em><\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\">\t<p><em>Want to know more about our student services?&nbsp;<\/em><em>Check out the&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/student-wellness-2\/\">student wellness section<\/a>&nbsp;of our website for more details.<\/em><\/p><\/div>","tve_custom_css":"@media (min-width: 300px){:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5dda50\"] { color: var(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; --tcb-applied-color:var$(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; --tve-applied-color:var$(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5ee489\"] { margin-top: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a5f2361\"] { padding-bottom: 0px !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-1781a610943\"] { color: var(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; --tcb-applied-color:var$(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; --tve-applied-color:var$(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-1781a619123\"] { color: var(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; --tcb-applied-color:var$(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; --tve-applied-color:var$(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb3e\"] { margin-top: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb46\"] { padding-bottom: 0px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb48\"] { padding-bottom: 0px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a61eb4b\"] { padding-bottom: 0px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a68bd05\"] { float: none; padding: 25px 60px !important; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: auto !important; margin-right: auto !important; --tcb-local-color-36c04:var(--tcb-skin-color-0)  !important; --tcb-local-color-3a8fd:rgb(240,240,240)  !important; }}@media (max-width: 767px){[data-css=\"tve-u-1781a68bd05\"] { padding: 40px 20px !important; }}","tve_user_custom_css":"","tve_globals":{"e":"1","font_cls":[]},"tcb2_ready":1,"tcb_editor_enabled":0,"tve_landing_page":"","_tve_header":"0","_tve_footer":"0"},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-163","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-zestologi","post-wrapper","thrv_wrapper"],"permalink_manager":null,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/163","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=163"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/163\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/164"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=163"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=163"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/psyvitaliti.ca\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=163"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}